A BBA Guide: Learn Great Ways to Stay Motivated and Take Massive Action Towards Goals. Eliminate Risk of Failure and Get Big Shit Done with These Tips!

We all struggle with motivation. The feelings of being inspired and energized and ready to go are so fleeting.

Tony Robbins says feeling motivated is an emotion and emotions are energy in motion.

In other words, to feel the emotion of motivation you must change your emotional state with energy. You must create this energy and then you can create or fuel your motivation.

You must create the motivation, instead of waiting for it. You can not wait for the emotion of motivation to come. You must create it by doing.


This sentiment is true for not only motivation, but so many other things in life. You often need to create the things you want and need in life. Feeling motivated won’t always happen when you want it to. Chances are more likely that it will not find you if you are just sitting around waiting for the feeling to hit. Additionally, if you aren’t in the state to receive it, you may miss the window of opportunity. The key is to create the motivation for yourself.  You have to get out there and make it happen.

This is perfect for the new year! in 2020 commit to creating your motivation instead of waiting for the feeling to hit!


“Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.” -Bradley Whitford

This quote says it all. We have a say in the way our life goes. We don’t have to let life just happen to us. Think of how you can’t always wait for the perfect job  or wait to be invited to hang with friends. In those situations, you might have to create an event and invite them or go out and create your ideal job. The same is true for motivation.

Below I have listed 6 ways to grab and create motivation. Keep reading!


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Immerse yourself

Surround yourself with things that motivate you.

Create a Vision Board (Click Here to read more on vision boards  and cultivating you personal vision). Hang with friends. Keep photos and  reminders and fully immerse yourself in the things you are trying to do, create, or manifest. This will keep it in the forefront of your brain, and keep you motivated.


Take Massive Action

In other words…Just Do It!

You don’t make a change by doing the bare minimum. You won’t see changes form from taking shortcuts. You can’t see change by staying in your comfort zone.

You must work – hard. When I say push yourself you need to go further than you’ve gone before, daily, go further than you’re comfortable with. You need to do more than you had thought you could.

 Motivation is an emotion and emotions are fleeting & based off many factors. The B.B. tip is that you just do it. Motivated or not.



Get a partner. Set a reminder. Create a reward system. If you need a team or group get one. If you need reminders, set them. Accountability partners have proven to keep you motivated and help with reaching goals.



Change your outlook on the situation from negative to positive. Consider changing from “I have to go to work today” to “I get to go to work to today.” Just that small change in perspective can do wonders for motivation. 



Create a plan and stick to it.

We can’t just talk about what we want, dream about what we want, think about what we want and expect it to happen with just thoughts and hopes alone.  We have to take BIG ACTION toward our goals, create a plan and stick with it.  Having a plan and a calendar can take out the guess work of what you need to do next when your motivation is low. That would just contribute to another excuse as to why you cant do something.

Eliminate the excuses by doing a little of extra work in the front end by creating a plan and the hard work is over. All you have to do is stick with it.

I believe that anyone can have whatever they want in life, if they work toward it consistently.

Honor your word to yourself. Don’t you want to be the type that says they’ll do something and always come through.

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If you want a 1% life you need to put in 1% work – Gary V

Lastly – get excited to grow and move past your comfort zones. Remember what your reason is for the goal or the desired outcome. That will help carry you through the times where motivation is low. We have the abilities to create the outcomes we want, make shit happen, and get shit done. I encourage you all to take life by the horns and create the sparks you need.



A Bad Bitch’s Guide: How to Eliminate Jealousy and Cut Down Unnecessary Comparison. Tips to Walk in Your Power.

In the BB Guide to Self- Validation, we learned that we are all so unique and beautifully made. Being our complete selves and taking up space is so important. We have the ability to build ourselves up and we do not need the opinions of others to know that we are worthwhile. But…sometimes comparison and jealousy will still set in.

We all do it. Every once in a while, that green-eyed monster will creep in an we will get jealous and envious of what others have or have accomplished. You will see another’s journey and look at yours and start to feel inadequate, or lost, or stagnant. You might feel like they’ve accomplished so much while you haven’t. Or you might feel like they have so much while you may not. We all know social media is a big proponent of this.

It’s time we stop comparing our lives to other people’s lives. Stop comparing our struggles to other people’s struggles. And stop comparing our journeys to other people’s journeys. Periodt.

“Comparison Is the Thief of Joy” -Theodore Roosevelt

Life is short. It is my goal to make sure my baddies are living their best lives by bringing in all the wonderful and happy things into their lives and not focusing on being jealous of others, comparing themselves with others and focusing on any other things that make our experience on earth painful, or malcontent. Focusing on unnecessary, low vibrational and, often times, false thoughts does not fall in line with living our best lives or being a bad bitch.

In this guide I have comprised some thoughts and sentiments to remember when you start to feel jealous, as well as a few tips to eliminate comparison all together. Keep reading below.

Think about this…You can think something but you do not know that it is true until you really know.

Have you ever created a whole story in your head or a scenario that you swore were facts, until you asked someone about what you thought to be true and it was the complete opposite?

Have you ever assumed something to be true but it turned out to be an overactive imagination and overthinking masked as false intuition?

Have you ever received part of a story and assumed you knew the whole story, and started making plans based on half information?

I definitely have. Prime example – Wondering why someone was not texting me back, spiraled into me being so sure that they were texting who I considered to be competition, which turned into me becoming jealous and almost flying off the handle from pure assumption and a jealousy induced rage, or anxiety.

I’ve learned that asking the questions can eliminate a lot of unnecessary drama.

You can not be too afraid of the answer to ask the question – Iyanla Vanzant

Remember that your thoughts are not always based in reality or true.

At the same time the grass may look greener but there is always more to the story. A person may have something you covet but who knows what they had to do to get it. Additionally, they may have one thing that looks great but are lacking in so many other ways. You never know the full truth of a situation.

Do not be afraid to ask questions.

This will eliminate comparison, drama, pointless jealousy and envy.


Whatever you are jealous of, remember that you can have it to.

Most of the time we feel jealousy or resentment because deep down we want what they have. Well, I’m here to tell you that we can absolutely have what they have.

If I’m jealous because I see someone with a “perfect” body, and I’m not doing all I can to become happy with my body…what am I really feeling these covetous feelings for? I am not doing all I can for me.

If I’m feeling jealous because I see my friend has an adventurous life, with lots of friends, and travels often, and I want that too, there is a fairly simple solution. I need to go out and create that for me too.

“If you want a 1% life you need to do 1% work – Gary V”

Create the life you want.


Ok, now it is true that some circumstances are out of our control. And maybe you’re not jealous but you are comparing your circumstance to others and are not happy. This is where gratitude comes in.


Gratitude is the most important tip in all of this. It is essentially the cheat code for happiness

“Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.” —Zig Ziglar


We must be grateful for wheat we have, what we are going to receive, what others have been given, our protection, our blessings in general. There are so many things to be grateful for

I have said it before that we have a say in our happiness and in our lives in general. It is wasted energy to wallow in jealousy when we could be doing what we could to create our own wonderful, exciting, adventurous lives. If you want it, be happy that others have this fantastic thing and figure out how to create it in your own life too. But above all of that – be grateful for what you have been given today! Sometimes we get so caught up in our daily grind that we forget that we have been so immensely blessed. I want to encourage all of my baddies to take some time to practice gratitude.


A Bad Bitch’s Guide to Self-Validation. Learn your worth and how to Boost your self-love!

There was a time in my life when I felt like I needed the approval of others to feel like I was worth anything. Although I have consistently found myself to be a confident person as far as my abilities, I did not have the same confidence in relationships. I remember specifically thinking to myself, “if I give more in this relationship, then they would see how amazing I am, and would need me more,” not realizing that I was giving so much with the hopes of receiving the little scraps in return that I subconsciously thought I was worth. I was not reading the signs and would easily become blinded by the little amount being reciprocated, if at all, and thinking it was a grand gesture.

It took about 1 good heartbreak to realize…. “No – I really am amazing and I deserve so much more.” I felt the so sad and unhappy and allowed myself to feel the pain for about 1 week, trying to figure out how I walked myself into this pain. After the week was up I decided it was time to move and change.I used the Feel and Form Method.

I used the Feel and Form Method. Click to read more about a method to get back on your feet after you’ve gone through a hard time.

I needed to figure out how I can prevent myself from going through this same situation again, and why I was settling for less, and what in my past informed why I thought that was ok. From then I moved differently. Purposefully went outside of my comfort zone to prove to myself that I can do what I put my mind to. I went after new experiences and went on a self-discovery journey to build myself up. No longer settling for scraps.

This is one reason why I am so passionate about Bad Bitch Affirmations. I want others to know that we do not need to be validated or built up by anyone else.

We can give to ourselves. We can love ourselves. We can validate ourselves.

A key to be a true BB is wearing your crown, knowing your worth, and giving yourself your flowers (accolades) without the need of validation from others.

It is my goal to make sure my baddies not only know this truth but embody this truth.

Definition of self-validation

: the feeling of having recognized, confirmed, or established one’s own worthiness or legitimacy

It is so important to living your best life to be able to not only boost yourself up and love yourself, but to confirm, know, and recognize your own worthiness. This should stand alone and come from within- without the input of anything outside of self. Below I have given a few sentiments to think about to start reminding yourself of your worth.
  • A lion does not concern itself with the opinions of sheep.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. As you go on your journey you might get discouraged by opinions or negativity of others – don’t. It doesnt matter if the negative comments are pointed at you or not. Do not waiver or get wrapped up in lower level thinking and walk in your worthiness and self love.


  • Be kind to yourself and give grace.

Give yourself time if needed. Give yourself love when you need it. Do not give yourself undue pressure or hold yourself to some erroneous standard. Treat yourself as you would your best friend – kindly and patiently.

The way you talk to yourself and treat yourself can inform a lot about your experience in the world.

If you think you are worthless, then you may act as if you are worthless, and others may treat you as if you are worthless. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy.


“Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent – Eleanor Roosevelt”


  • Fill yourself daily

Make sure your cup run-eth over. You don’t need words or opinions of others as validation to know your special or amazing. Fill yourself before trying to fill someone else. You need to be a whole/full individual to have extra for others.

Daily Affirmations are an extremely useful tool to fill yourself up. Repetition becomes an ingrained habit. And it is great thing to think you are worthwhile as a habit.


  • Have an abundance mindset.

Begin to operate from the mind frame of excess and abundance not from lack. In other words, you are powerful and have a lot to offer. You are not a victim but a champion in your own right. Pour into yourself with positive speech today. (NAME 10 things you like about yourself…GO!)

“I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me.”
– Al Franken as Stuart Smalley

All of our experiences make us who we are. And I wouldn’t trade an experience for anything. It is what we can learn from these experiences and how we can grow that brings the value from the pain. BBA was created to fuel and motivate and encourage all women to know our worth and realize that there is a bad bitch in all of us.

The Declaration of Self Esteem below by Virginia Satir has some of the same truths and themes you’ll see throughout Bad Bitch Affirmations, and it was only fitting that I should share it with you all below. Let the words really sink in.


Declaration of self esteem –

the Declaration of Self-Esteem by Virginia Satir

“In all the world there is not one exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I choose it…I own everything about me, my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions whether they be to others or to myself…I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears…I own all of my triumphs and successes, all of my failures and mistakes…because I own all of me. I become intimately acquainted with me…by so doing, I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts…I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me and other aspects I do not know…but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me…however I look and sound whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me…if later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turned out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting and keep the rest and invest something new for that which is I discard…I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me…I own me and therefore I can engineer me…I am me and I AM OKAY.”





A BBA guide: Getting into FLOW STATE and How It Can Actively Help When Dealing With Anxiety and Depression

Like we’ve discussed in A BB guide to deal with disappointment and create more satisfaction in your life, feeling let down or experiencing discontent because circumstances may not meet your expectations is a natural occurrence.

Disappointment is a pretty regular fact of life. It happens all the time. In the previous post I gave you 8 ways we can change our reactions when things don’t go our way. One of my favorite methods, that I mentioned was flow state. But you may be asking what exactly is flow state.

What is Flow State?

Flow state is a conscious state of being fully present, focused in the now, and allowing happiness and contentment with no room for self-consciousness. Also, could be described as being in the zone and demonstrated as rolling with the punches, in scenarios where malcontent is concerned.

A famous saying from Lao Tzu states that “If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.”


The method of Flow State advises us to focus on the now and focus on what is happening at this very moment.

Psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi, who coined the term describes it as an “optimal state of consciousness where we feel our best and perform our best.” And “being completely involved in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing jazz. Your whole being is involved, and you’re using your skills to the utmost.


Other states of being include relaxation, boredom, worry, anxiety, and arousal.

When you allow yourself to enter flow state you do not leave much room for emotions such as anger, jealousy, envy, stress, aggression, competition, worry, and disappointment; all of which are lower level ego-based emotions.


Alayna Kennedy, contributor for the Huffington post wrote in her article “Flow State: What It Is and How to Achieve It” that 10 factors that accompany flow state are:

1.Having clear goals about what you want to achieve
2. Concentration and focus
3. Participating in an intrinsically rewarding activity
4. Losing feelings of self-consciousness
5. Timelessness; losing track of time passing
6. Being able to immediately judge your own progress; instant feedback on your performance
7. Knowing that your skills align with the goals of the task
8. Feeling control over the situation and the outcome
9. Lack of awareness of physical needs
10. Complete focus on the activity itself


When you enter flow state you do not focus on the future or the past – just the task at hand, and the present moment. Flow state is a conscious state of being fully present, focused in the now, and allowing happiness and contentment with no room for self-consciousness.


Have you ever sat down to work on something and get so wrapped up in it, that you seem to lose all track of time? That is being in flow. If you think back to that time – do you remember feeling any anxiety? Do you remember wallowing or feeling low? Do you remember any second guessing? There was no room for any of that.


The next time you are feeling overwhelmed by life take some time to clear some space for yourself and get into flow state. Think about what is needed for you to get a state of flow. What contributed to you being in the zone?






A BBA Guide: 8 Easy Ways to Deal with Disappointment and Create MORE SATISFACTION in your life TODAY

Disappointment is a common occurrence in life. It happens to everyone, all the time. But it can still leave us feeling down and frustrated when things don’t go our way. If you’ve ever dealt with an unexpected breakup, or not getting that promotion, or even cancelled plans, you understand how easy it is to feel let down. In a world with so many variables, possible outcomes, and where others have agency and free will, disappointment is bound to happen to all of us eventually.

Although you may not be able to change things when circumstances don’t go as planned, you can change your outlook and your reactions to them. You can change yourself.

There are ways to manage, survive and even thrive when frustrating situations hit. You can deal with situations in a different way, limit feeling disappointed and not let it affect you so much. In this post I will give you 8 ways to not only deal with disappointment but create more satisfaction in your life today.

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Count your blessings

This should always be one of the first things we do – period. But the feeling should be amplified when dealing with disappointing situations. Do not forget how blessed you are. If you’re reading this then you’re already more blessed than a lot of people. Gratitude will allow you to see the world in a new light and bring some tranquility to mind.

“When we focus on our gratitude, the tide of disappointment goes out and the tide of love rushes in.” – Kristin Armstrong

Come from a place of power.

Remember that you are not a bystander in your life and even if things do not work out with this situation, you won’t be defeated. Look for opportunities of growth and lessons that can be learned. Lean into those situations.

Flow State

Practice flowing and being like water. Flow state is a conscious state of being fully present, focused in the now, and allowing happiness and contentment with no room for self-consciousness. Also, could be described as rolling with the punches or being in the zone.

When you allow yourself to enter flow state you do not leave much room for emotions such as anger, jealousy, envy, stress, aggression, competition, worry, and disappointment, all lower level ego-based emotions.

Release expectations and you release yourself.

Sometimes when you limit the strong attachments to one particular outcome you free yourself. You also allow other possible outcomes that can be better for you and more aligned for your path This is such an important point that I will expound upon soon.

Feel and Form a plan

Feel the emotions for a moment and then form a plan of action. I will never tell you not to feel emotions or tell you to stifle your feelings. It is human nature to feel it bad when situations do not go your way. The key is to allow yourself that moment, for a moment – then move – act. Do not wallow. Get to work.

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Fill your life with many exciting things.

This works by giving yourself many things to look forward to instead of just that one thing. That way if one thing doesn’t work out, you have many other things that will bring you joy. How does the saying go? Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. This will limit one situation holding so much weight in your life.


Don’t give up.

If you are striving towards something and have been rejected in one way or another, Do not give up.

Re-frame your thinking and consider it a redirection instead of a rejection, and even a divine intervention.

Look at the big picture. When you come to realize that in the grand scheme of life, being rejected, or disappointment is not going to hold you back or even matter in the long run, you will already be miles ahead of others.

Most importantly – Make a conscious decision to move boldly as if the world is on your side.

It’s human nature to want to protect yourself and move with caution, but are you really living your best life if you walk around fearful? Use the negative emotions as a tool and a motivational factor instead.

And finally -I need to repeat this sentiment for the baddies in the back. Although you may not be able to change things when circumstances that don’t go as planned, you can change your outlook and your reactions to them. You can change yourself. It is my goals that my baddies are well equipped for the ups and downs in life and have tools to deal with disappointments in the best way. If you’ve found this helpful – let me know below. Id love to hear your stories.


A Bad Bitch’s Guide: Create more JOY & HAPPINESS in your life with the POSITIVITY SWITCH! 5 tips to catch your negative thoughts & become a Positive Beacon of Light.

My favorite tips to stopping the negative thoughts and switching instantly to positivity. Make it a habit. Your friends will wonder what’s changed in you.

“If you believe that the world is conspiring against you, it will just do that.”
― Bangambiki Habyarimana

A very powerful quote and so true in so many ways. Thepifesting that negativity into your life. If you dwell in fear and go around looking for the bad things, they will inevitably reveal themselves to you.

This is why a positivity switch is so essential to living your best life and having the most awesome [YEAR OF YOU]!

Switching off the negative thoughts, that do not serve you, and turning on your positive, optimistic thoughts will create a much better existence. Life is short. Why wouldn’t we make our time as enjoyable as possible? Continue below to learn my favorite tips executing the POSITIVITY SWITCH.

Become aware of the habit and force yourself stop.

Practice Mindfulness

Start paying close attention to your triggers and catch yourself when you start thinking negatively. It may be something like your environment that sets you off, or something someone has said. Whatever it is – identify it.

  • Step into a new physical environment, remove yourself to protect yourself.
  • Use a rubber band around your wrist to stop the habit
  • Vocally Speak to yourself – “self…stop”
  • When I realize I am being jealous I need to stop immediately
  • Take some time to think, is what I am feeling really true
  • Turn the negative thought into an affirming one. Instead of focusing on what you don’t like, focus on what you do.

Figure out where the negativity is coming from.

Fear, jealousy, anger, envy, aggression, competition hatred, guilt, anger, hostility

  • Once again – Identify it. When we know what something is, and we can name it, it is so much easier to conquer it.
  • These are low vibration emotions that are sure to create a lot of negativity and suffering. We will discuss more about these emotions to come
  • “A positive Mindset attracts Success like a magnet and a negative one loves to marry failure, procrastination and comfortable environment that sobs in mediocrity and impossibility.”― Oscar Bimpong

Practice intentionality and choose to focus on the positive daily.

Before you get into the negative spaces, or walk into the triggers, start your day with some intentions. Figure out what you want and create an intention daily. Start your day by saying what you want and walk in your power. This will begin to switch your knee jerk reaction from the negative to the positive and create the habit.

  • Intention Example: Today I want to will be more loving and less jealous.
  • Affirmation Example: I am open minded and considerate. I am genuinely happy for others, and know that other peoples success does not negate mine
  • Practice and repeat the intention and affirmations throughout the day.
  • “Your thoughts carry you wherever you want to go. Weak thoughts don’t have the energy to carry you far!” ― Israelmore Ayivor

Remember that you can’t always believe what you think.

“Remember, what you “feel” and what is “real” are often very different.” ― Eddie Capparucci, LPC

Be aware of your inner dialogue. Sometimes you convince yourself of things that are not facts. We can get so wrapped up in one side of a story, or what we made up in our heads, that we fail to paint the full picture, which could save us a lot of pain. Things may not always be how we imagine them in our minds.

  • Remember that you can’t always believe what you think and tell yourself. Your negative voices are not always true
  • Never assume anything. Communicate clearly to avoid misunderstandings.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask the questions, or clarify.
    • Examples: what I hear you saying is…
    • I feel like you are saying this…is this true?
    • You’re doing this which makes me feel like that. Is this accurate?

Go to Gratitude

Gratitude can calm the greatest trouble minds. Being grateful can put a lot of things into perspective.

  • Be grateful for what you have
  • How far you’ve come
  • Where you’re going
  • Any times that you have been granted grace.
  • Looking at the big picture and become aware of what you want to do want out of can help you overcome the negative thoughts. We don’t have time for this – were on a bigger path.
  • We suffer when we want life other than what it is. If we put things into perspective with gratefulness, we can eliminate so much suffering.

“Your mind can destroy your life! Mind your mind; think well! Detoxify your thought and be free!”
Ernest Agyemang Yeboah



When the time comes when you feel yourself slipping, use some of the one of the above methods to stop and switch to a positive mind frame. Remember that your worth and the path that you are on. These negative thoughts do not serve you. As we continue in the Year of Y.O.U (Your truth, optimism, and understanding) becoming more positive will start to lay the very important groundwork to living your best life.

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