How to Get The Most Out of a SELF CARE September + 20 Self-Date ideas

Hey Baddies, 

Self-care is so essential but is often neglected. We often forget that taking care of our mind body and spirit are essential to a full, healthy, happy life. I, for one, have the habit of neglecting myself until my tank is essentially on empty. 

“If you feel “burnout” setting in, if you feel demoralized and exhausted, it is best, for the sake of everyone, to withdraw and restore yourself.”

Dalai Lama

This is not good and it takes much more effort to recover from zero percent than at 30 percent. It is so important to take more breaks for ourselves. 

The key to a great Self-Care September, as well as a life full of self-care, is to schedule your “me-time.”

Put your “me-time” time on your calendar just like you would any other important event. It matters and your self-care matters too. 

Ideas for “Me-Time” – Self Date and Self Care

Self-care can look like a lot of things depending on what is needed.

For instance, if you are running on 2 hours of sleep, self-care for that situation should probably be stillness and rest.  But if you are feeling low or depressed, self-care may be an energizing and creative outing.

Organize and adjust your self-care to fit your unique need at the time.

I love this quote from Brene Brown: “Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.”

The same sentiment should go for the time you spend with yourself:

Treat yourself as you would someone you love.  Spoil yourself the way you would spoil someone you love. Love on yourself the way you would someone you love. Date yourself the way you would date someone you love.

I want to encourage you to make it a part of your routine to spend some time pouring into yourself regularly and routinely. Take yourself on a date and enjoy yourself.

Below I have some tips and ideas below for your self-care dates that you can incorporate into your life.

Buy yourself flowers

Spend the night out of town- staycation

Take a trip to beach

Do karaoke

Try visiting an aquarium

Rent a fancy car

Try a mixology class

Take a spa day

Go to a gun range

Buy a new plant

Rent a movie

Paint and sip

Wear your pjs all day

Go bar hopping

Explore a jazz club

Set up a bonfire

Bake something new

Take yourself to a comedy show

Visit a botanical garden

Make ice-cream from scratch

“It is so important to take time for yourself and find clarity. The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.” Diane Von Furstenberg

Need some more inspiration?

Try and make it a game. Put all the ideas in a jar and pick a random one out weekly. Create a bucket list and try to mark them all odd. Add some mindfulness and journal how you felt before and after.

These are just a few ideas that can help boost your self-care journey and help you stay in a positive state. Remember to schedule in your “me-time” on your calendar and modify for what you need. Become attuned to your needs and what fills you up and watch your life flourish.

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Explore Your Sensual Self and Femininity Using These Tips  – The 5 Senses + Sure Fire Ways to Boost Your Self-Care This Month

“My definition of beauty is simplicity, elegance, and sensuality. I think that when a woman is in harmony with herself and remains true to her values, she will glow naturally.”

~ Megan Fox

Hey Baddies,

When is the last time you fully and completely enjoyed something? When is the last time you felt deep and overwhelming bliss or joy or excitement? Some of us may be blocked from our deeper feelings and senses an I want to work on changing that. Getting intouch with the senses and more sensual parts of self will increase your connection to everthing around you.

Sensuality is the act of experiencing or indulging in one’s senses, which can include anything that causes a person to feel physical, emotional, and mental pleasure.

So sensuality is not just about your senses…

It’s an expression of your whole self. Sensuality is a holistic physical experience and it’s time we embrace it.

Adding the element of sensuality to your self- care practice means we will be giving more attention to our bodies and what they need: healthy food, exercise, movement, and relaxation.

The idea behind sensual self-care is to tune into your femininity, your root and sacral chakras, your physical body, and use mindfulness to pour into your ‘self’ and connect with your ‘self.’ You have 5 senses. Become playful with them! Explore them.




the condition of being pleasing or fulfilling to the senses.

Below there are a few tips for bringing more sensuality and femininity into your self-care this month!


Take some time to become curious about your body and explore it. How does it feel when you stretch like this, or how does it feel when you wrap yourself in this? Do you love a soft blanket? Do you prefer a hard mattress? Whatever it is, bring more o f that into your life.


Try new and exotic foods. Do you always go for the same  dishes? why not take some time and explore a different cuisine or a different combination of foods. Do not be afraid of disliking something either – it’s part of the fun and helps you discover more of what you do like.


Incorporate more music in your life. Try to listen to music from other countries or genres. became curious about the appeal or culture of other things. Try listening to nature. Are you aware of how your neighborhood sounds at the still of night? Or how about early in the morning? Do you know what the birds sound like around you? Practice mindfulness and still ness and breathe in the nuances of life and the beauty of nature.


Try essential oils and aromatherapy. Buy yourself some flowers or candles. For nostalgic purposes pick up some old perfume and spray it around your space.


Go somewhere you haven’t been before. See something you haven’t seen before. Get lost in your city. Go down a different street. Go to a museum. Or consider your routine with new eyes and a new perspective.

So by discovering sensual self-care you open yourself up to connection, and embrace who you are. Increasing your sensuality will allow you to enjoy life’s pleasures on different new level. This is an amazing way to become present, connect with your surroundings and with your inner self. Think of ways that you can delve deeper into your self-care this month.

Femininity is not just lipstick, stylish hairdos, and trendy clothes. It is the divine adornment of humanity. It finds expression in your qualities of your capacity to love, your spirituality, delicacy, radiance, sensitivity, creativity, charm, graciousness, gentleness, dignity, and quiet strength.
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Dive into your ‘sensual self’ this month! September is Sensuality + Self Care Month!

Sensuality + Self Care Month September

September is Sensuality and Self Care month!

So we are going to take you baddies on a little journey through connecting with your sensuality, femininity, and whole self this month.

We will go over what is femininity and how to connect with it, some examples of sensual women and how you connect this with self care and being your whole, unique self. Get excited baddies!

Keep reading below a few poems about the beauty of sensuality and femininity.



Tell your daughters how you love your body.
Tell them how they must love theirs.
Tell them to be proud of every bit of themselves—
from their tiger stripes to the soft flesh of their thighs,
whether there is a little of them or a lot,
whether freckles cover their face or not,
whether their curves are plentiful or slim,
whether their hair is thick, curly, straight, long or short.
Tell them how they inherited
their ancestors, souls in their smiles,
that their eyes carry countries
that breathed life into history,
that the swing of their hips
does not determine their destiny.
Tell them never to listen when bodies are critiqued.
Tell them every woman’s body is beautiful
because every woman’s soul is unique.”

― Nikita Gill


these hips are big hips
they need space to
move around in.
they don’t fit into little
petty places. these hips
are free hips.
they don’t like to be held back.
these hips have never been enslaved,
they go where they want to go
they do what they want to do.
these hips are mighty hips.
these hips are magic hips.
i have known them
to put a spell on a man and
spin him like a top!

Lucille Clifton

Phenomenal Woman


Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size   
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,   
The stride of my step,   
The curl of my lips.   
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,   
That’s me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,   
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.   
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.   
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,   
And the flash of my teeth,   
The swing in my waist,   
And the joy in my feet.   
I’m a woman

Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered   
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,   
They say they still can’t see.   
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,   
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.   
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.   
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,   
The bend of my hair,   
the palm of my hand,   
The need for my care.   
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Maya Angelou, “Phenomenal Woman” from And Still I Rise. Copyright © 1978 by Maya Angelou