Category: 30 days to greatness

How to improve your most important relationship… 30 Questions to get to more in-tune with yourself – Do Thy Know Thyself?

Hey Baddies,

Do Thy Know Thyself?

Think about how exciting it is to get to know someone new. You probably ask loads of questions, want to spend a lot of time with them, lean into the awkward stages and pay close attention to their answers and responses. Have you ever considered doing that for yourself? Do you feel like you invest as much time getting to know others as you do getting to know yourself? Can you answer questions like…”what do you want out of life?” or “what lights you up inside?”

In case you didn’t realize, your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you have.

“He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.”

― Lao Tzu

s incredibly important. You are essentially with yourself and your thoughts 24-7.

Consider this…You are definitely not the same person you were a year ago or even 10 years ago. Your ideas may have changed, new experiences may have shaped you, and circumstances may have created new perspectives for you.

As we continue this journey of self-discovery and connecting with self, lets start asking ourselves question as a way to get to know our selves and re-connect with who we are in this space and time, with the understanding that we are beautifully evolving creatures. 

Write out your answers in a journal or a sacred space… and spend time listening, learning, and discovering. You’re worth it.

Connect with self- JOURNAL PROMPTS:

  • What do you like about yourself?
  • What are you grateful for?
  • What do your friendships mean to you?
  • What is a trigger for you?
  • When did you last cry – why?
  • Tell 3 great things about yourself?
  • How do you feel about your friendships and relationships?
  • How do you feel about love?
  • Do you believe in soulmates?
  • How do you feel about your life -meaning; purpose; where you’re at?
  • How do you feel about death?
  • How do you feel about your childhood?
  • Is there anything or anyone you want o to forgive and move past?
  • What in your childhood shaped the person you are today?
  • Describe a great day?
  • If you could have any ability- what would it be and why?
  • Who need s more love in your life?
  • What is your deepest secret?
  • What makes you angry
  • What is your deepest fear?
  • What is your greatest desire?
  • What makes you laugh; What brings you joy?
  • What makes you scared?
  • What makes you cry?
  • What do you want to accomplish?
  • What great things happened in your childhood?
  • 3 qualities you admire in someone close to you – why?
  • What is your greatest accomplishment?
  • What is your treasured memory?
  • What does your dream life look like?
  • What does happiness look like?
  • What limiting beliefs do you want to work on?
  • What are your lifetime goals?
  • If you couldn’t fail – what would you do?

 “Look around you. Everything changes. everything on this earth is in a continuous state of evolving, refining, improving, adapting, enhancing, and changing. You were not put on this earth to remain stagnant.”

-Dr. Steve Mataboli

Remember that we are beautifully evolving creatures. We weren’t made to remain the same. As you ask your the questions in your sacred space, try to pay close attention to your answers and the truth behind them. You may discover something truly amazing along the way.

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The Secrets to processing big emotions, fears and traumas – Self-Soothing Techniques  + our nervous systems #What’s next? (2)

Hey Baddies More about our nervous system… Bet you didn’t know that the nervous system affects more than just the nerves in our body.  The Latin derivative for the word emotion, ’emotere’, literally means energy in motion. It is the feeling sensation and physiological reaction that makes a specific emotion positive or negative. When we…

30 ways to a better & brighter day + tips for releasing negative emotions and stress. Learn to self regulate today! (#calm down)

Hey Baddies, this next statement may surprise you… “The truth is that stress doesn’t come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about your circumstances.”―Andrew Bernstein Oof, that’s a tough quote. Essentially, its saying that we have more control over our lives and…

30 ways to a better & brighter day + tips for releasing negative emotions and stress. Learn to self regulate today! (#calm down)

Hey Baddies, this next statement may surprise you…

“The truth is that stress doesn’t come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about your circumstances.”
―Andrew Bernstein

Oof, that’s a tough quote.

Essentially, its saying that we have more control over our lives and how we react to stress, than we think. 

Stress is a feeling of emotional or physical tension which can stem from our reactions and thoughts to an event or circumstance.

Did you know that we sometimes subconsciously choose to think in a way that causes us to feel stressed (usually out of habit) and that, with some practice, we can change and decide not to feel those stress emotions?

Easier said than done right? 

There are a lot of ways that we can begin to start to control or regulate stress but like with any muscle, it takes some time to build up that control.

One tool is mindfulness. Beginning a mindfulness journey and becoming aware of your triggers will help slow down the knee-jerk reactions. Another tool is separation. Removing yourself or separating from situations, conversations, or circumstances that you know cause those feelings to come up for you.

Remember we are aiming for emotional regulation…not repression.

  1. We want to start by identifying what you are feeling. Give the emotion a name. If you do not know the name start big (with simple words) and zone in. Example…I feel sad, scared, or mad.
  2. Accept the emotion. Make peace with the fact that the feelings are present. Breathe and do not be too hasty to change your emotional state.
  3. Be kind to yourself and non-judgmental. Watch your inner dialog. Do not talk negatively about how you feel and start to regulate.

Below I have come up with 30 ways to relieve stress and emotional pain and begin to reframe situations and self-regulate. 

  • Breathe – take a few deep, calming breaths and collect yourself
  • Therapy  – talking to someone who is trained in helping is always a great idea
  • Read – take your mind elsewhere for a moment
  • Make an action plan – decide on what you will do if/when you are in a similar situation again
  • Research how others overcame – there is someone out there who has gone through the same thing. Figure out how they coped
  • Reorganize – clear out clutter or clean your space to help clear your mind.
  • Look at childhood /limiting beliefs – figure out where the habits come from
  • Work on goals – put that extra energy into something worthwhile
  • Create art – express through different mediums
  • Validate yourself – remember that you are valid
  • Re-channel energy- figure out an outlet that works for you
  • Write – another form of expression
  • Give yourself time – take a moment
  • Allow yourself to feel – sit in your feelings without judgment
  • Don’t overanalyze – sometimes the best thing you can do is to just let it be without thinking too hard
  • Don’t pressure yourself – relax and know that the strong emotions will pass
  • Cry – let it out if that’s what feels right
  • Scream into a pillow – let it out if that’s what feels right
  • Sing – sound is very cathartic
  • Dance – physical movement is healing as well
  • Exercise – the endorphins will have you feeling great and accomplished
  • Get in the sun – Vitamin D is necessary
  • Look at your triggers – learning what sets you off can help you in the future
  • Drink water – cleanse your physical body
  • Read – start reading self empowerment books
  • Seek friends – talk to your closest friends
  • Change perspective – think about things from a different point of view
  • Meditate – breathe deep and re-focus
  • Journal – write about the problem or use the journal to switch focus
  • Consistently care for yourself – making sure to care for your mental and physical health regularly will help ensure you are not drawing from an empty well

Consider this: The Latin derivative for the word emotion, ’emotere’, literally means energy in motion.

These 30 ideas are literal ways for processing emotions and moving the energy through your body.  As you practice and become more aware of triggers it all will get easier. Sooner or later, you will find that what used to set you off doesn’t phase you anymore. Get excited! Better days are coming!!

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30 Actionable Ways to Achieve a Greater Connection with “self” TODAY + Practice Peace and Gain Confidence 

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How to Get The Most Out of a SELF CARE September + 20 Self-Date ideas

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30 Actionable Ways to Achieve a Greater Connection with “self” TODAY + Practice Peace and Gain Confidence 

Hey Baddies,

As we learn about self-regulating and self-soothing – we have discussed “feeling triggered.” But what exactly is feeling triggered and how can you learn more about your own triggers?

“Feeling triggered isn’t just about something rubbing you the wrong way. For someone with a history of trauma, being around anything that reminds them of a traumatic experience (also known as a “trigger”) can make them feel like they’re experiencing the trauma all over again.”

“Click here to read more : from http://www.verywellmind.com

Feeling triggered is a physical, and emotional response to a situation that is more than just feeling uncomfortable.

Think PTSD.

And it can happen for a range of reasons that you, as the individual, may or may not be aware of.

As we practice more mindfulness, some of our triggers will come to the surface. We may realize that as we dig deeper into who we are as individuals, we may be faced with some discomfort but it is important to connect with who you are so you can be more aware of you as we continue this journey. 

Remember that we have a goal of calming our nervous system when we are triggered and find ourselves having knee jerk reactions. This takes practice. 

So lets create the important habit and get into the routine of slowing down the knee jerk reactions and replace it with things that bring in more peace and calm states into our lives. 

Below there are 30 ways to start doing just that.

I have created a list to help you start connecting and discovering self. 

Consider write out your answers in a journal or a sacred space… and spend time listening, learning, and discovering. 

  1. The first step is always to breathe and regulate your physical nervous system…so breathe in…..and breathe out….
  2. Take a spiritual bath. Take care of your vessel/temple.
  3. Clean your space and fix your environment to bring you great energy.
  4. Call friends. Surround yourself with people + good energy
  5. Go sit in the sun. The sun has healing properties.
  6. Get “lost.” Go on an adventure.
  7. Watch a different type of movie. Try something different.
  8. Read a book or earn something new
  9. Spend time with an elder
  10. Exercise. Move your body
  11. Journal
  12. Meditate
  13. Make a bucket list and actually start crossing some things off.
  14. Sit in silence
  15. Practice something and work towards a goal
  16. Actually finish that thing you have been working on
  17. Write out a gratitude list
  18. Dance – turn the music up loud
  19. Sing
  20. Write a story, write poetry, do some research
  21. Play a sport – or learn one
  22. Visit a museum
  23. Create something
  24. Look at your accomplishments
  25. Take a risk. Push through your fears (you may surprise yourself)
  26. Sit in awe and enjoy the things/people you have in your life.
  27. Forgive others
  28. Drink water
  29. Treat yourself.  
  30. Pay attention to your emotions.

“Sometimes, you just need a break. In a beautiful place. Alone. To figure everything out.” 

These are just a few suggestions to help you connect with yourself.  Write down anything that you learned about yourself or how you have grown while doing these things. Think about how doing more of these tasks with yourself can help when you are in a stressful situation. Remember that we have a goal of calming our nervous system when we are triggered, and I know you can do it!

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Meditation | Mental Health Awareness | 4 M’s of May

Meditation is another powerful way to bring mental clarity and ground yourself. I believe everyone can benefit from meditation. Verywellmind.com defines meditation as… a set of techniques that are intended to encourage a heightened state of awareness and focused attention. Meditation is also a consciousness-changing technique that has been shown to have a wide number…

30 Affirmations to help super charge your new year |30 DAYS TO GREATNESS

30 Affirmations to inspire you and super charge your new year!

The power of affirming yourself is unmatched when it comes to changing the way you think about yourself and what you can do! You should be your biggest cheerleader! Try building yourself up consistently with affirmations for 30 days and see the changes in yourself.

But what is an affirmation?

An affirmation is a statement or phrase that is proclaiming, declaring, and affirming. Always positive, affirmations, when repeated have a way of changing thought processes and changing dispositions.  They can also become part of your identity.

Identity statements are powerful motivators for self-change. Using emotional words with affirmations is important, because of the deep association we have between emotion words and somatic experiences. “

Check out Affirmations: The Why, What, How, and What If? | Psychology Today for more info on affirmations.

I can go on and on about the power of affirming yourself and how you can create the person you want to be by how you speak to yourself. But suffice it to say, your words are powerful and can literally create your reality. Why not choose them to uplift yourself and others.

This is your super power…untapped potential. It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.

–Claude M. Bristol

A key benefit to practicing affirmations is that some codependent tendencies can begin to change into more healthy ones by simply changing the way you think about yourself and your strength. Affirmations help you to rely on yourself, instead of seeking validation from others.

By speaking kindly to yourself, and stating the type of person you want to be, you pour into yourself and build yourself up. You create a picture of a person and you essentially begin to walk as that person.

Any thought that is passed on to the subconscious often enough

and convincingly enough is finally accepted.

~ Robert Collier

[Read the affirmation quickie guide for a more in-depth view of what affirmations are and how they help.]

How to start!!

Try to repeat at least 1 affirmation to yourself a hundred times throughout the day (break it up into 10x increments). If you say it to yourself in front of a mirror its even better. And writing them out has even greater effects.

Alternative – Every morning, write out what you intent to do, how you intend your day to go, and your intentions with your thoughts. Incorporate an affirmation in that practice.

Choose one from below that speaks to you. Or write your own that pertain to your personal journey and get excited ! You’re on your way!

  1. I am safe and protected divinely
  2.  I am loved and cared for
  3.  I can do hard things going to accomplish my goals
  4.  I am good and kind and have good intentions
  5.  I trust others to have good intentions towards me
  6.  I am growing everyday
  7.  I am in control of how I see the world
  8.  I am strong and confident
  9.  I have no enemies. I am a friend to all
  10.  I am a powerful creative. I create my reality. I create my outlook  
  11.  I ask for what I want effortlessly
  12.  I am becoming someone I am proud of
  13.  I love myself or I’m learning to love myself 
  14.  I am proud of myself
  15. I am gentle with myself
  16.  I give love freely
  17.  I’m worthy and more than  enough
  18.  I’m fearless and limitless
  19.  I’m learning to trust myself or I trust myself
  20.  I am not alone. I am grounded in love
  21.  I may have bad days but I do not give up I am resilient
  22.  Everything I need is within me
  23.  I fill myself up and build myself up daily
  24.  I am vibrant and beautiful
  25.  I am interesting and knowledgeable
  26.  I do not apologize for being me
  27.  I am bold, charming, and magnetic
  28.  I’m special and unique
  29.  I have talents unlike anyone.  I am the only one like me
  30.  I desire to treat myself well

Bonus!

  1.  I am worthy of love and compassion 
  2. I have so much untapped potential
  3. I am filled with greatness.
  4. I am wise.
  5. I am learning, and I am growing.
  6. I love and appreciate myself as I am.
  7. I can do hard things
  8. I choose to be confident today
  9. I choose to see the good in all people and circumstances
  10. I am perfectly human and continually evolving

One comes to believe whatever one repeats to oneself sufficiently often, whether the statement be true or false. It comes to be dominating thought in one’s mind.
~ Robert Collier

30 Self-Care + Self-Tuning Meditations | 30 DAYS TO GREATNESS

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“The more regularly and the more deeply you meditate, the sooner you will find yourself acting always from a center of peace.”

– J. Donald Walters

We are starting off with a bang!

Meditation! This may be one of my favorite things to encourage people to do because the effects are so powerful. Meditation allows you to connect with self in a way like no other.

So since we are on a journey – 30 Days to Greatness, we have to do first things first. Clear the clutter.

To increase greatness in your life, one of the first things you must do is create the inner environment for mindfulness, growth , and awareness. With these things you can create amazing changes in your life and you will foster the space for more greatness. As is the case with any task – you must first clear the space before you can do great work. It is very difficult to do great work in clutter.

Meditation is the perfect way to create that clear inner environment. Just by breathing deeply, which you do while meditating, you can start relax, reduce tension, and relieve stress.

In the post “MEDITATION – IT MAY NOT BE WHAT YOU THINK” we do a deep dive into the benefits of meditation, the different types, and how it impacts your life in amazingly beautiful and intricate ways. To me, meditation is like a good roast, it takes some time to cook but it has rich rewards when its done. Hop over there to read that post and get some insights.

“I believe there is at least one aspect of meditating that can help everyone. Whether it is the transcendent aspects, or the slowing down of your thoughts, or deep breathing, or even just relaxing, There is something that can benefit literally everyone physically and or mentally.

“Excerpt from : MEDITATION – IT MAY NOT BE WHAT YOU THINK – Blossom and Bloom Series

For this first post to the 30 Days to Greatness series I have made a playlist of a variety of meditations, and informational/inspirational videos that I have used personally, and others have recommended that have had a huge and wonderful impact on their lives.

These meditations will connect you wit yourself, your inner goddess, your sensual power, self love, work on removing anxiety and stress, and will help with the way you speak to yourself (your inner dialog.)

Chose one that calls to you or just go down the list daily and be inspired.

But….Before you start- watch this short video to learn more about meditation from experts –How to Use Meditation to Deal With Stress and Anxiety | Impact Theory – CLICK HERE for more info about meditation.

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1. Self-Love Affirmations: “I am Beautiful”

CLICK HERE TO AFFIRM YOUR SELF WORTH

2. Quick Chakra Tune-up | 3 Minutes Per Chakra | Chakra Healing | Tuned Tibetan Bowls Meditation

CLICK HERE FOR THE CHAKRA TONES

3. GUIDED MEDITATION: Ease Anxiety & Worry

CLICK HERE TO RELEASE ANXIETY AND STRESS

4. 10-Minute Guided Meditation for Beginners to Clear Thoughts

CLICK HERE TO PRACTICE FOR BEGINNERS

5. A Meditation for Black Women

CLICK HERE TO BREATHE IN GRATITUDE

6. Chakra Tuning for Self-Expression | Crystal Singing Bowl Sound Bath

CLICK HERE FOR THE SOUND BATH

7. POSITIVE MIND in 5 Minutes Meditation

CLICK HERE FOR MORE POSITIVE INSPIRATION

8. 10 MINUTE Guided Meditation “The Paradise Beach“

CLICK HERE TO TRAVEL TO THE BEACH

9. 432 Hz Awakening The Goddess Within | Love Meditation Music | Heal Feminine Energy

CLICK HERE TO EXPERIENCE THE CLEANSING TONES

10. 2 MINUTE Guided Meditation. Breath of Love

CLICK HERE FOR A QUICKIE

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11. ALIGNMENT + MANIFESTATION Meditation for BLACK WOMEN

CLICK HERE FOR THE AFFIRMATION MEDITATION

12. MAGNETIZE MIRACLES INSTANTLY | Gratitude Meditation To Shift Your Reality

CLICK HERE TO TAP INTO YOUR POWER

13. Activate Your Feminine Energy & Awaken the Goddess Within ~ Guided Meditation

CLICK HERE TO AWAKEN YOUR GODDESS

14. ULTIMATE MANIFESTING MEDITATION | Become An Energetic Match Using The Love Frequency

CLICK HERE TO CONNECT WITH THE LOVE FREQUENCY

15. 5-Minute Meditation You Can Do Anywhere

CLICK HERE TO RELEASE TENSION

16. YONI – Affirmations for grown women

CLICK HERE FOR A VIBE

17. Self-Affirming Guided Meditation for Black Womxn

CLICK HERE TO AFFIRM YOURSELF

18. I AM Affirmations ➤ MAGICAL MORNING HAPPINESS: Positive Energy, Confidence, Abundance, Healing & Joy

CLICK HERE FOR HEALING AFFIRMATIONS

19. Guided Meditation| Creating an Inner Environment for Success

CLICK HERE FOR A BEAUTIFUL PRACTICE FROM YOGINANDA

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20. Guided Meditation: Ep. 43 ~ Goddess 𝐑𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞

CLICK HERE TO CONNECT

21. 10 Minute Chakra Balance Guided Meditation for Positive Energy

CLICK HERE FOR A GROUNDING MEDITATION

22. 10 Minute Morning Meditation 💙 To Have A Really Good Day !!

CLICK HERE TO HAVE A GREAT DAY

23. Affirmations for Health, Wealth, Happiness, Abundance “I AM”

CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR ABUNDANCE

24. I AM Affirmations ➤ Gratitude & Self Love

CLICK HERE TO REPEAT THESE AFFIRMATIONS

25. Guided Meditation for Detachment From Over-Thinking (Anxiety, OCD, Depression)

CLICK HERE TO BEGIN DETACHMENT FROM OVERTHINKING

26. How to Overcome Fear & Stop Self Sabotage: A Guided Visualization/Meditation

CLICK HERE TO BEGIN THE JOURNEY

27. Spoken Meditation for a Clear Mind: Clarity, “Clearing the Fog” Visualization

CLICK HERE TO CLEAR THE FOG

28. Guided Body Scan Meditation for Mind & Body Healing

CLICK HERE FOR THE GUIDED BODY SCAN

29. Guided Meditation – Blissful Deep Relaxation

CLICK HERE TO FIND YOUR BLISS

30. I AM Affirmations ➤ F*ck Procrastination & All Excuses

CLICK HERE TO REPEAT AND AFFIRM AND SMILE

***BONUS! – F*ck That: An Honest Meditation – CLICK HERE TO RELEASE ALL STRESS

“In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you”-Anonymous

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